The Story of Your Birth 

Hi dear girl, 

I hope this finds you and the kids well! I’m loving our written correspondence and I’m so appreciative to the staff of my senior care community for helping me write these letters to you.

You know I don’t like to talk much about my health, but I know I’m getting to a point where I can’t deny it any longer… I’m losing my memory. It’s so hard to even say it out loud. It feels like an admission of defeat. I’m trying to stay positive and stay in the present moment. I don’t know how things are going to change in the coming months and years, but I just want you to know how much I love you, Nadia. Always and forever. Please remember that when I don’t seem like myself. 

I’ve decided to write some stories down. One of the first that came to mind is the story of your birth! I know you’ve heard it before, and maybe a few of the details are a little fuzzy for me, even now, but I want to make sure it’s recorded. I’ll write more in my next letter but here are just a few of the ways I prepared for your birth. 

Read more below… 


The Heartbreaking Journey of Alzheimer’s and Dementia 

The journey of Alzheimer’s and dementia is a heartbreaking one, for caregivers and the diagnosed individual alike. 

At Mesa View Senior Assisted Living in La Mesa (and at our partner locations, Harbor View Senior Assisted Living and Bay View Assisted Living in San Diego) we strive to provide compassionate, individualized care, preserving our residents’ dignity at every stage of their Alzheimer’s journey. 

Continued below is a touching letter from a mother to her daughter as she realizes her memories are slowly slipping away.


How I Prepared for Your Birth 

As you know, I had the privilege of attending several births as a doula before I went into birth myself and, while every birth is different, I had a good idea of what I did and didn’t want for my own experience. In previous generations, every woman would have gone into her first birth having attended many others. I attended a childbirth education class, read book after book, birth story after birth story, and pored over evidence based articles and reputable studies of birth outcomes. 

I talked to many friends about their birth experiences and talked to several home birth midwives. I was familiar with the physiological birth process, the ways that things go right the majority of the time, the ways that things can go wrong in rare situations, the interventions that routinely happen in hospital births (and the lack of evidence for many of them), and the difference between the medical and midwifery models of care.

Rarely is a woman simultaneously so vulnerable and so powerful as she is in birth. I chose carefully who would be in the birth with me. I knew I needed people who believed I was strong and smart in my choices, but also people who would compassionately and selflessly support and serve me in my vulnerability. People talk about unmedicated birthing women going into “labor land” and I definitely experienced how the intensity of labor gave my mind and spirit a sole focus and I was no longer completely present. In an unsupportive environment, this transcendence is often taken advantage of to subject a woman to all sorts of things she wouldn’t normally agree to. I guess this can also be true in many different healthcare settings…

Well, dear girl, I’m starting to get tired. Can’t wait to write more about your precious birth in my next letter. 

Love you always, 



We Strive to Provide Individualized, Compassionate Memory Care in San Diego 

At Mesa View Senior Assisted Living (and at our partner locations: Harbor View Senior Assisted Living and Bay View Assisted Living) our compassionate, highly competent staff work hard to provide individualized care to each member of our memory care communities.